Men's Healing Retreat in Guatemala | The Moth at Lake Atitlán

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Men's Healing Retreat · Lake Atitlán, Guatemala
Out of the Shadow,
Into the Flame.
A real container for the man who is tired of carrying everything alone.
Lake Atitlán, Guatemala · 8 Days · 7 Nights · 6 Men · $3,333 Flat Rate
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The Moth is an 8-night men's healing retreat near Lake Atitlán, Guatemala, for six men ready to stop managing their lives from behind the armor they built to survive them.

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Men's healing retreat at Lake Atitlán, Guatemala — The Moth by The Cocoon
Men's Healing Retreat · Lake Atitlán, Guatemala

The Moth — Men's Healing Retreat by The Cocoon

The Moth is an 7-day, 8-night men's healing retreat near Lake Atitlán, Guatemala. Six men per cohort. The retreat combines ceremony, somatic release, ancestral healing, grief work, fire ceremony, brotherhood, and 40-day integration support. It is held by Tye Adekoya inside The Cocoon Healing Retreat ecosystem.

This is not a performance retreat. It is not organized around dominance or masculine branding. It is a grounded container for men who are ready to stop managing their lives from a distance and actually show up for them.

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The Summons

You can see the door.
You just keep finding reasons not to open it.

To the man reading this

You already know something is off. You have known for a while. And you are not avoidant exactly, not broken exactly, not checked out. You are a man who keeps almost reaching for something and then pulling back, and you are not entirely sure why.

Maybe your father was there and wasn't. Maybe he wasn't there at all. Maybe he was the kind of man who worked hard and said nothing, who loved you in a language that never quite landed, who carried something he passed down without meaning to. And now you catch yourself doing the same thing. Going quiet when you should speak. Going hard when you should soften. Going away when the people who need you most are right in front of you.

Nobody taught you how to be a man. They handed you a performance and called it strength. And you have been holding that performance together for so long that reaching for your own interior life has started to feel like something you have not earned yet.

I am not writing this to fix you. You are not broken. I am writing this because I sat in that same silence for years and called it stability. I know what it costs. I know what your children pay when you don't deal with what your father left you.

The Moth is seven days. Seven full days to put down what was handed to you. Eight days of fire, water, earth, brotherhood, and ceremony, not to make you soft, but to make you real. You will walk fire. You will bury what needs to be buried. You will sit with men who are doing the same work, and not one of you will be performing.

You will go home different. Your children will feel it before you say a word.

That is the only reason any of us are here.

Tye Adekoya, founder of The Cocoon Healing Retreat and facilitator of The Moth

I know this because I walked it myself.

I grew up in Shreveport, Louisiana carrying things I didn't have names for yet. A posture inherited from men who were themselves carrying things they never examined. A helper wound dressed as strength. A silence I called stability. I was functional. I had a convincing story about having processed my stuff.

What I did not understand then is that there is a difference between functioning and actually being okay. And I had confused the two for most of my adult life.

It took years of circling before I understood what I was orbiting.

The Moth was not designed in a room. It was excavated from the interior of a life honestly examined. Every element of this container, the fire, the brotherhood, the vow, exists because I needed it to exist and could not find it anywhere that felt true.

If you are here, you have been circling something too.

This is the container that was built for that.

Tye Adekoya
Founder, The Cocoon · Lead Facilitator, The Moth

The Moth is an eight-day, seven-night masculine immersion on the volcanic shores of Lake Atitlán. It is not a workshop. It is not a retreat from life. It is an initiation, a deliberate passage through earth, water, fire, air, and ether, designed to interrupt the patterns that have been running you and replace them with something you can actually live by.

You will bury what you no longer need to carry. You will grieve at the waterfall until the water takes it. You will walk fire. You will rewrite the code your father handed you. You will bless your lineage and release it.

Then you will go home different. Not announced. Felt.

What This Is Built On
Everything that transforms must first be willing to be still.
The Moth is built on five pillars. Not as a curriculum. As a container.

Five pillars. One unbroken line.

I
Earth
Ritual That Honors
Ceremony rooted in gratitude, not performance. We name our sources, respect the lineages we draw from, and move with permission. Nothing here is borrowed without acknowledgment.
II
Fire
Physicality That Opens
Warrior movement. Waterfall plunge. Fire walk. The body is the door, not as performance, but as presence. Physical challenge here is not about proving. It's about arriving.
III
Water
Brotherhood That Holds
Six men who have agreed to be honest. No fixing, no saving, no advice unless asked. Just witnessing, which is the rarest thing a man can offer another. The Brotherhood Circle meets every evening.
IV
Air
Clarity Without Bypass
Spiritual depth without spiritual avoidance. Prayer and silence earn their place here. So does discomfort. We will not skip over what needs to be felt in order to reach what feels good.
V
Ether
Legacy Work
The patterns you carry were not born with you. The patterns your children carry do not have to be yours. Eight days is enough time to break one cycle. That is enough to change a family line.
The Journey

Eight nights. One arc. You don't sign up for The Moth. You answer it.

Each day is anchored to an element and a layer of the work. Nothing is random. The arc carries you.

Earth
Water
Fire
Air
Ether
Friday Eve
Arrival
The Opening
You arrive to the land and to each other. A shared dinner, introductions, and the first truth-telling. Cacao Ceremony to open the heart and soften the armor men walk in with. The Despacho, an offering to the land and to what you've come to release. The fire is lit. The work begins.
Day 1
Earth
Root & Release
Dawn breathwork and Warrior Movement to arrive in the body. The Ancestral Patterns Workshop, you identify what you inherited, what you chose, and what is running you without your permission. In the afternoon, Reiki Trauma Release moves what the mind named in the morning. The body does the work words cannot. Brotherhood Circle closes the night.
Day 2
Earth
The Burial Rite
Men can have two Earth days. The soil takes what you give it. The Burial Rite is a full ceremony, you name what you are done carrying, you write it, you speak it to your brothers, and you bury it. Not metaphorically. In the ground. The afternoon is yours, silence, the lake, stillness. Some men sleep. Some men cry. Both are correct. Brotherhood Circle at night.
Day 3
Water
Grief & Flow
Dawn breathwork without movement, just breath and presence. Then the Waterfall Hike & Grief Release. You hike to the falls intentionally. At the water, each man is invited to release what he has been holding, grief, shame, the weight of being needed. The falls absorb what the earth could not. Afternoon Massage to integrate the body. That night, Drum Circle. Grief met with rhythm. Brotherhood Circle closes.
Day 4
Fire
Tame & Transform
The fire day. Dawn Warrior Movement, then the Temezcal, the sweat lodge purifies what breathwork and water began. Afternoon brings Taming the Flame, the work men need most. Not suppressing anger. Not performing calm. Learning to carry fire as power, not wound. That night, the Fire Ceremony. What you burn does not come back. Brotherhood Circle holds the night.
Day 5
Air
Rise & Breathe
The body needs joy after four days of depth. The Moth Zipline, a literal leap through the air over the lake and the volcano. Come up for breath. Lunch and free time in town, wander, eat, exist like a man who has put something down. Evening Authentic Relating, practiced presence with another human being. Then Brotherhood Circle. Men come to this night lighter than they have been all week.
Day 6
Ether
Rewrite & Bless
The final full day. Rewriting the Code, a deep workshop on masculine conditioning, what was handed to you, and what you choose to hand forward. Not theory. Practice. Reiki Sessions in the afternoon to integrate the whole week in the body. That night, the Lineage Blessing & Ancestor Ceremony. You call in what came before you. You bless what comes after. Brotherhood Circle closes the arc.
Day 7
Initiation
The Fire Walk
The day you came for. Self Reiki Class in the morning, you leave with a practice you can use at home. Breathwork & Meditation Class in the afternoon, same. Then Hapé & Fire Walk. The sacred tobacco clears the mind. The fire is walked. Every man who crosses has already done the work, the fire is just the confirmation. The night ends with a Celebratory Dinner and Brotherhood Circle. You did it. You go home tomorrow, different.
Who Comes to The Moth

Built for the man who knows something needs to shift
and is tired of waiting for it to happen on its own.

This is for you if
  • You can see who you want to be. The distance between that man and the one currently showing up has started to feel permanent.
  • You love the people in your life and cannot always explain why your presence still feels incomplete to them.
  • You carry something from the men who raised you that you have never fully examined and cannot seem to put down.
  • You have tried to work through things alone and have reached the honest limit of what solitude can do.
  • You have been strong so long that reaching for support feels like something you have not earned yet.
  • You are ready to go home different. Not announced. Felt.
This is not the right fit if
  • You are in active psychiatric crisis or require clinical care.
  • You cannot commit to the full eight days.
  • You are unwilling to be witnessed. This is not an audience experience.
  • You are looking for a vacation with spiritual branding.
  • You are not ready to bury what needs to be buried.

If you are not sure whether this is right for you, book a call. We would rather have an honest conversation than the wrong fit in the circle.

This work belongs to any man who has carried more than he was meant to carry alone. That includes every man.
For the women who love these men

You already know who he is.
You married that man.

Somewhere along the way something shifted. He got quieter when things got hard. He started managing instead of showing up. The distance between you and the man you know he is has been growing, and you have been the one doing the math on that distance, alone, for a long time.

You have probably tried to reach him. Videos. Conversations. Books left on the nightstand. None of it landed the way you needed it to. Not because he doesn't love you. Because information doesn't heal shame. It feeds it. Every resource you sent, he heard one thing underneath it: you are failing. Again.

He does not need more evidence of what he is not doing. He needs a container that is not you. A space where the work is not connected to your relationship, where he can be honest without it feeling like testimony in a case against himself.

That is what The Moth is. A room that does not depend on you to hold it open.

You cannot do this work for him. You were never meant to. Your exhaustion matters. Your pain does not have to be invisible for his healing to be honored. Both can be true at the same time.

If he is ready, this gives him somewhere real to go. If he is not yet ready, The Ember Ritual names something honestly, that love cannot carry growth for two people forever.

Share it with him. Or come find us. We will talk to you both.

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After the Retreat

The Ember Circle

The real retreat begins when you go home. The Ember Circle is a 40-day integration arc designed to help the work land in ordinary life.

  • A daily five-minute breath practice
  • Weekly honest check-ins with your brothers
  • Monthly live calls with the men who walked beside you
  • A continued relationship to the vow you made in the work

Not dependency. Continuity. After three months, the circle moves into a quarterly rhythm led by its members. We build leaders, not followers.

The Investment

Everything included. No deposit. No hidden costs.

All-inclusive flat rate. Six men per cohort. When the cohort fills, it closes.

All-Inclusive · 8 Days, 7 Nights
$3,333
flat rate per person  •  minimum 4 men to open
  • All guided practices and ceremonies
  • Waterfall excursion, zipline, and fire walk
  • Lodge accommodation, all meals, airport transport
  • 40-day Ember Circle integration
  • Self Reiki and Breathwork home practice class
  • Vow card and Ember Journal
  • Pre-initiation workbook included
  • Guided meditation and healing frequency audio tracks
  • 2 optional pre-retreat integration calls with Tye

Payment plans available. One partial scholarship per cohort.

Before the Retreat

This is for the man
who is trying to try.

The one who can see the door but keeps finding reasons not to open it. Not because he doesn't want what's on the other side. Because somewhere along the way, reaching for his own interior life started to feel like something he hadn't earned yet.

Out of the Shadow, into the Flame does not ask you to be ready. It asks you to be honest. Those are different things. And honest is something you can do right now, alone, without anyone watching.

Five sections. Five excavations. A letter written in each one. It will not fix anything. It will make the avoidance harder to maintain. That is the point.

Men who complete it arrive at the retreat already knowing how to look inward. The work goes deeper faster. The brotherhood forms more honestly. The vow lands with more weight.

You do not have to be considering the retreat to begin. Begin because you are ready to stop lying to yourself in ways that feel reasonable.

Full Workbook
Out of the Shadow,
into the Flame.
$27.77
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Lake Atitlán panorama — The Moth men's healing retreat location, Guatemala
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2026 Dates

Two cohorts. Six men each.

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June Cohort · Father's Day
June 12 to 20, 2026
You come home the day before Father's Day. There is no accident in that.
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September Cohort · Fall
September 18 to 26, 2026
Post-Labor Day, post-summer. The lake is lush and green. Men are ready to move before the holiday season hardens around them.
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FAQ

What men usually ask
before they answer this.

What is The Moth?
The Moth is a self-guided workbook and an 8-day, 7-night men's healing retreat inside The Cocoon at Lake Atitlán, Guatemala. It is built for the man who is ready to stop managing his life from behind the armor he built to survive it, and who has hit the ceiling of what he can access alone.
How long is the retreat?
The Moth is 8 days and 7 nights. You arrive Friday evening for the opening ceremony and depart the following Saturday after the fire walk and celebratory dinner the night before. The arc moves through arrival, seven days of elemental work, and a closing ritual.
What is the workbook and how do I get it?
The workbook, Out of the Shadow, into the Flame, is a self-guided pre-initiation across five sections, five excavations, and five letters. It is $27.77 and delivered instantly after purchase. It is included at no additional cost with all retreat registrations. Not ready to commit? Begin with The Ember Ritual, a free single-session first threshold.
Is this therapy?
No. The Moth is not therapy or coaching. It is a structured container for honesty, ritual, brotherhood, and integration. Men in active mental health crisis should seek clinical support first.
How is this different from other men's retreats?
The Moth is not organized around blame, performance, or masculinity branding. It does not promise dominance or detachment. It is organized around honest self-witness, responsibility, grounded practice, and the experience of being seen without needing to perform. It begins before you arrive, with the workbook, and continues for 40 days after you leave, through the Ember Circle.
What happens after the retreat?
The Ember Circle, a 40-day integration structure. Daily breath practice, weekly check-ins with your brothers, and monthly live calls keep the container active after you return home. After three months, the circle moves into a quarterly rhythm led by its members. We build leaders, not followers.
How do I know if I'm ready?
Begin with The Ember Ritual, a free ritual hosted by The Cocoon. If moving through it feels uncomfortable in a useful way, you are ready for the workbook. If you are still unsure about the retreat, book a clarity call. We would rather have an honest conversation than the wrong fit in the circle.
Is there a deposit?
No. The Moth is $3,333 all-inclusive flat rate. Payment plans may be available, but there is no public deposit tier.
Ready

The fire is already lit.
The question is whether you are ready to look at it.

Six spots per cohort. Two cohorts in 2026. $3,333 flat rate. When they fill, they fill.

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